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• Offer a fair wage. Just as you wouldn't be happy earning a below-average salary at your own job, neither would your nanny. Depending on where you live, how many children you have, the duties involved, and your nanny's experience and education, you may pay anywhere from $300 to $700 a week or more for 40 hours of work.

If you offer room and board, the range is a bit lower, from $300 to $500 a week. But if you plan to have your nanny work longer than eight hours a day or more than five days a week, you need to compensate her for that.

To determine what a competitive salary is in your area, ask nearby parents with nannies what they pay or contact the International Nanny Association.

• Provide good benefits. To ensure that your nanny stays, hammer out a sweet incentive package in your employment agreement, which should outline days off, paid holidays, and vacation time.

Some parents provide a car for their nanny to drive. (Make sure she's covered by your car insurance — the premium can be hefty.) Others offer to pay for classes at a community college or for a gym membership. If you're chipping in for health or car insurance, specify this in the contract.

Letting your nanny bring her own child to work is another benefit that will likely make her happier to work for you, but it isn't a reason to lower her compensation.

• Treat her like a professional. Her job may be in a home instead of an office, but nannies take their job seriously, and so should you. If you're confident of her abilities, show it. Trust that she'll do a good job and don't second-guess her decisions.

If there's something that you'd like done differently, don't assume that she's wrong and you're right. Be respectful of her approach, and suggest without undermining her that you have your own particular way you'd like it done.

Address any complaints or concerns you may have in a constructive manner. Avoid attacking her personally and stick to the issues at hand.

• Lay down ground rules and respect them. Remember, you hired your nanny to care for your child. She's not the housecleaner, so she shouldn't be asked to do extensive housework unless her contract — and her pay — includes that expectation from the beginning.

Don't ask her to run errands unrelated to childcare unless she agrees to certain duties, such as picking up your dry cleaning, ahead of time in her contract.

If her hours end at 6 p.m., make sure you're home at that time (emergencies excepted). And if you have to ask her to stay late, compensate her fairly.

Remember, she has her own life, and if she doesn't live with you, she may have a family to go home to at the end of the day. (See our story on setting ground rules for nanny care.)

• Show your appreciation. Remember how good you feel when your employer tells you how important you are to your co-workers? Your nanny needs to hear the same thing. She's doing a very important job for you, and it's important to tell her often how much you value her and the job she's doing.

You might write your nanny a thank-you note anytime she does something especially wonderful or bring her a small gift. If you've stopped at the market on the way home, bring her some fresh fruit. If it's been a stressful week for all of you, a bottle of bubble bath would be a nice acknowledgement.

Celebrate her birthday and other special events. She'll also be thrilled with an unexpected cash bonus for a job well done.

• Be flexible. Allow for some changes in your nanny's schedule, as long as she doesn't take advantage of this. Sometimes you have to take time off during the workday for doctor's appointments or other personal errands. So will your nanny.

As long as she gives you plenty of notice so you can find a substitute or adjust your schedule, try to accommodate her needs.

• Be communicative. Whether you have compliments or complaints, make sure you touch base with your nanny consistently and often. If she feels you're open to talking, she'll be more likely to approach you with ideas and concerns.


"Be clear and communicate," says Amy, a part-time nanny from El Cerrito, California. She suggests spending a few minutes at the beginning or the end of each day checking in. If you don't see your nanny in person every morning or you're too rushed to talk, try writing down your thoughts.

Many nannies tout the benefits of a written to-do list. Note what you want done, with the date you wrote it down and a "due date" if you need it done by a certain time. Leave a separate column where you can indicate the priority of the various items, so your nanny knows what to tackle first when she has a few free moments.

• Back her up. If your nanny attempts to impose agreed-upon restrictions on your child, don't undermine her authority by reversing her decisions. After all, she's only doing what you asked her to do. And you need your child to respect your nanny's authority just as she does yours.

Mary O'Connor says one woman she placed through her nanny referral agency left the family she worked for because the parents took away her power to enforce the rules of the household.

Although they had said she could take away their child's swimming privileges if she misbehaved, they often changed their minds and let their daughter use the pool whenever the child complained to them. This kind of thing is confusing to a child and makes the nanny's job much harder.

• Be concerned about your nanny as a person, not just as your employee. Her job may be to care for your child, but she also has her own life. If she's young, she needs time in the evenings to see people her own age. If she has a family of her own, don't keep her overtime any more than you have to or she'll feel like she's having to choose between your children and her own.

Without prying, find out a little bit about your nanny. Does she like music? Is she a movie fanatic? If she has children, ask to see their photos. The more you get to know her, the more she'll feel like the important member of your family that she is.

• Respect her privacy and teach your child to do the same. If your nanny lives with you, make sure everyone in your home knows that when the day is done, she's off-duty. Her days off should be truly her own — no asking for last-minute household or babysitting help.

Communicate this to your child as well: For example, if your nanny has Sundays off, make sure your child knows that Sunday mornings aren't the time to knock on her door and ask for breakfast.

Your ninth-month to-do list :

       What a month! Excitement, anticipation...maybe a little tinge of worry. Some days, it probably seems to be taking forever; other days, you aren’t sure where the time has gone — and your baby will be here soon! There’s plenty to do in these last weeks: winding up at work, getting your home ready for your amazing new arrival, buying things you’ve never shopped for before, such as diapers and tiny undershirts. Without wearing yourself out, you’ll want to make the most of this precious time. 

Need a little help getting organized? Read on!

Ready for the birth

      Jill Ritchie, a certified doula and owner of Babeeze in Arms Doula Centre in London, Ont., stresses that the most important thing to do before you have your baby is to plan for support during labour and in the early weeks postpartum.

     • Ritchie recommends writing a birth plan — what she calls a “hopes and wishes list”: a short, realistic, positive letter for your support team describing the kind of labour and birth you’d like to have. 

     • You will want to put together a labour bag. Besides your hopes and wishes list, Ritchie suggests including: your hospital registration forms and health card; slippers or warm socks; an oversized T-shirt to labour in; a sports bra for the bath or shower; a robe; comforts (music, lotion, lip balm, hand-held fan); your own pillow and birth ball; a list of people to call and a cellphone or change for the pay phone; and your camera and video camera (both charged!). Add toiletries, Gatorade or clear juice, and nutritious snacks for you and your partner.


    • Pack postpartum supplies too: diapers and clothes for the baby, something comfortable to wear home, maxi-pads and a nursing bra.